I think when people ask you those kinds of questions such as “What about your marriage?” what they’re really doing is projecting their own fears and insecurities.

A lot of people don’t really fully trust their partners to go away for a weekend by themselves, let alone months! To me that is a strange concept. How can you be married to someone if you can’t even trust them with something like that?

The other thing is that a lot of marriages are couples who are co-dependent on each other. It’s so easy to fall into that trap.

The funny thing is that since you’ve been gone I’ve had people ask me what I’m going to do for food, or laundry, LOL. Like I’m some kind of imbecile that can’t figure out how to throw my dirty clothes into a washing machine and turn it on, or can’t figure out how to cook something.

I mean c’mon, I know how to cook Chinese Food, Dominos, McDonalds, Boston Pizza… 🙂

On a more serious note, what’s crazy is that people who worry that you following your spiritual calling is going to break up our marriage don’t realize that if you DIDN’T pursue this path, instead staying home to please some kind of “social norms”, THAT would end up breaking up our marriage. If not now, 10 years from now when you would be filled with regrets and blaming our marriage for stopping you from doing what you are truly inspired to do.

Also, at the same time as you’re in NB following your calling I’m also here following MY calling as well. It’s not like this is some kind of one-sided thing. I’m just as busy right now pursuing my dreams, so this works out perfectly. The Universe creates perfect alignments like this when you listen to your spirit.

I wish more couples did this. I bet the divorce rates would drop significantly.

-Paul
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Don’t worry Drea I deliver food to him at least once a week 😀

This is so interesting Drea. David and I have a lot of people viewing our marriage as quite curious as well since we seem to have a ‘not normal’ relationship according to some. I agree with the above responses that usually people give you responses to things “out of the norm” simply because they are masking their own insecurities about their relationship or themselves, etc.

I have done so many things in my life that David has really supported me with, and I too, have had many people telling me how “lucky I am” to have a husband that ALLOWS me to do these things. HA! A relationship is not about ALLOWING someone to do something, it’s about being open and honest and communicating and trusting that person even with all of their faults, and their mistakes along the way & respecting their journey in life. This also works with decisions David has made that others think are ridiculous, and all that matters is that we are OK with each other’s decisions and that we support each other. David is the first person that tells me to stop “asking for permission” – as he is always helping me gain even more confidence every day.

When you told me you would be gone longer I was so happy for you – even though we miss you here, I know this is what you need to do. I too feel that I am growing, as you are a constant reminder for me to seek more and more of my own independence within our relationship.

OH, and David and I keep checking on Paul and “feeding” him every now and then. ;O)

Agata
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