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You may be surprised to hear what the one thing I make sure I do everyday is.  Some people would think that it may be meditation, self Reiki sessions or even making sure that I am getting all my veggies every day.  Nope!  That’s not it!

I make sure that I have a good laugh.  Everyday.  I find something funny to watch or read about everyday that is going to make me really have a good belly laugh.  I love it!

I love to laugh.  One of the first things in the morning, along with my coffee, is to sit and find something to make me laugh.  I will search Facebook, YouTube or other sites to find things that are funny.  Ellen or Jimmy Fallon are usually sure bets to get some good laughter happening for me!

I find that it really helps me to set the day off right.  If I am feeling a little tired or sluggish it really helps to bring up my energy.  I firmly believe it when “they” say that laughter is the best medicine.

Laughter is very healing.  I believe that it allows us to break up dense energy and lets movement start to happen.  It raises our vibration and makes us feel good.  And that is the whole point of things, right?  To Feel Good Now!

If you are having trouble getting into a state of gratitude, start with finding something funny to watch or listen to or read.  It will help you uplift your energy and get you on the road to joy!

Below is the video I watched this morning to give me a good laugh! Enjoy!

It was five years ago this past weekend that my life changed for the better.  I wouldn’t have known it at the time, but looking back of course I can see how that moment was pivotal in changing my path.

I was involved in a car accident that was challenging to say the least.  It was actually one of two accidents in a 3 month period.  You see, the Universe was sending me messages for quite some time but I just wasn’t listening.  I knew that I had to make changes in my career, but I allowed myself to make excuses not to change.

So the Universe sent me a message in the form of a car accident that forced me to have to stop working for a period of time.  Unfortunately, I didn’t listen to what I knew I had to do, and I went back to work.  So the universe sent me the message a second time in the form of another car accident, to make things quite clear to me that I needed to make changes.  I guess I can be stubborn. 😉

I was in a job I hated, especially on a Monday.  I was unhappy, almost depressed.  Paul and I had been struggling with infertility for a few years.  Money was really tight…couldn’t pay the bills tight.  Life as I knew it then was very challenging.  So to add the stress of 2 car accidents to what was already a stressful life felt just impossible to overcome.

I knew I HAD to change.  I couldn’t live my life like that anymore.  After the 2nd accident and the circumstances surrounding it, I decided that it was time to make changes.  I had no idea really what this meant but I had made the decision that I was WILLING to make changes in my life.

That’s all we have to do as a first step to change when we are feeling stuck.  We must be willing to make changes.  Once we decide that we are willing to change, the steps start to follow.  We will start to see the steps come forth.  My next step was to quit my job and move to Moncton to train in what I LOVE to do, for 10 months.  I have to admit, it was an extreme move.  In most case for others the turn of events will not be like that, but for me, this is what worked.

I decided to take that leap of faith and move forward.  I didn’t know where the money was going to come from to pay the bills.  I didn’t know where I was going to live while I was there.  I didn’t know a single person that lived in Moncton when I left here to go there.  I couldn’t see the outcome of what was meant to be.

Was I scared when I quit my job and decided to move?  Sure!  I didn’t know if I would be coming back here.  I didn’t know what the fate of my relationship with Paul would be.  But I knew in my heart of hearts, that this was the right move for me.

I just knew what the next step would be.  Once I took that step, then the next step would follow.  And the next.  And the next…until here we are in 2015.  Five years later.

I am now living the life I want to live.  I am happy, fulfilled and I love life.  I love Mondays and every other day of the week.  I can pay my bills now.  I am a completely different person than I was in 2010.  My life is enriched in so many ways.  I am truly blessed.

Yes, it took time to get to where I am.  I have to say though, the time flew by.  I look back and I think to myself…wow, it’s already been 5 years!  It wasn’t an easy path, but it was definitely rewarding.  It’s important to have patience when you are on your journey.  Be kind to yourself.  When making changes for the better, choose things that YOU love to do.  If you are in a job you hate, make some changes!  Go to school part time, look for another job, or find fulfillment in a hobby.  Start a part time business.  It could be anything…just choose something that you love!

It’s so important to love what you do in life, in all aspects.  When we love what we do, we feel better.  Our energy is better.  The flow of life is better.  Creating what we want is easier.

If you are in a space where you feel like a change is needed, and you have decided that you are willing to make changes, ask yourself what is that one first step that I can take to make things better?

It can be challenging to make changes for the better in our lives sometimes.  Especially when these changes involve people that we love or care about.

When we start down a path of self healing or self discovery we often start to learn about boundaries and how to create healthy boundaries.  We are really creating new patterns here, or new dances so to speak.

Not everyone in our lives will want to participate in our new dances.  More often than not, the people that have the hardest time with our changes are the ones that are hurting the most.

When we start to empower ourselves and make better choices and start to speak our truths to others, we can find that sometimes the ones we care about the most can have the strongest reactions.  This is because we are changing and deciding not to participate in the pattern (or dance) that has been going on for years.

If you are in a relationship that isn’t serving the new you, then sometimes we have to let those relationships go.  If you are surrounded by people that constantly put you down directly or indirectly, and you have spoken your truth to them, but they decide to continue with the same pattern then it may be time to look at detaching from that relationship.

Our relationships, whether it is friends, close relatives, parents, or in-laws, are to be positive.  We want to feel good around the people that we surround ourselves with.  We want to choose people that will listen and empower us rather than condemn and strip us down.

Yes, this includes our close family.  It doesn’t matter if this is your parent or sibling continually treating you like garbage.  Unwilling to hear your feelings or bashing you when you try to communicate with them.  We have the hardest time with this.

We feel like we HAVE to keep these destructive relationships in our lives out of obligation.  “But this is my parent…I can’t let go of my parent…”  I hear this often.  When this person, WHOEVER it is, is abusive and unwilling to change then tell me…why would we want them in our lives?  Why would we want to subject ourselves to that type of energy?  Why would we sacrifice our well-being just because we feel we HAVE to?

No.  This is not right.

We deserve the best in our lives.  We deserve to be surrounded by people that support us and be our cheerleaders.  To care and comfort us in time of need.  To help guide and uplift us to be the best that we can be.

I’m not saying that everything is going to be perfect.  There may be conflict and challenges that arise within these positive relationships.  The difference though, is in the communication that happens when conflict arises.

It’s to be constructive not destructive.  Both parties are willing to listen and share how things make them feel.  Both parties are willing to make changes and respect the boundaries that are being put forth.

I saw this Meme the other day that said something to the effect of ” people that leave you didn’t really love you because they wanted you to change…so stay the same because they never really loved you…”.  It slightly irritated me because the energy behind it was perpetuating victim-hood and was covered in guilt energy.

What if the exact thing that your loved ones really need is for you to leave their lives so that they can create their own new patterns?  Maybe by allowing them to treat us badly we are possibly enabling them to participate in the dance?  Something to think about.

On the flip side…

If you are continually acting like an asshole and continually hurting the people in your life, then there is going to be a chance that those people are going to walk away from the relationship with you.  If you aren’t listening to what the people in your life are saying to you and are combative and unwilling to look at the responsibility that you hold in your part of the dance, then people may leave the dance.

We deserve the best in our lives.  The best in everything, especially with whom we choose to share these bests.

Choose wisely. 🙂

This is an awesome video.  There is talk about removing resistance to the things we want, and letting go of time frames of what we think our healing journey should take.  There is also talk about letting go of what other people think of us.  This is my favorite part I think.

So many of us worry about what other people are thinking about us, or lives, the decisions we make and if they are good or not.  Abraham really makes it clear as to why it is important to let go of this.  I really used to care a LOT about what other people thought.  I second guessed myself many many times.  I don’t anymore.  Every decision I make is perfect for me and the moment I am in.  People are going to have opinions of me, good or bad.  No problem.

Letting go of the influence of others in my life was one of the greatest gifts I gave myself.  I wish that you will give this gift to yourself as well.

I am surrounded by some very fantastic people.  These people are men and women.  They are supportive, empowered, optimistic, dreamers, creatives, and full of life.  I am grateful for this and I do realize that not everyone has this.

I’ve decided to create a Spiritual Round Table that meets once a month in my home.  Well, my table is square…but you get the idea.  Haha!  I’d like to create an environment when like-minded people can come and share their ideas and have conversations about different topics in a non-judgmental space.  Some of the topics will include spirituality, intuition, meditation, health and wellness.

This will be an open space to talk to others about things you know and ask questions about things you don’t.  We will have set topics for the evening that will be emailed out ahead of the session.  The sessions will be 2.5 hours on a Thursday from 7pm-930pm.

I will ask for a donation (to be determined by you) to offset the cost of hosting, but you will not be turned away for lack of funds.

There is limited seating, so if you are interested reserve your spot as soon as possible.

Date:  Thursday, Feb 5th, 2015

Time:  7pm – 930pm

Place: Maple Ridge, BC

Register Here

Sometimes it can be challenging to go from being a negative thinker to a positive one.  We are essentially creating a new habit and we must first become aware in how we are thinking.  Sometimes we aren’t even aware that we are thinking negatively.  It’s important to pay attention to the words we are speaking and thinking.  Are they uplifting or discouraging?

One way to create more positive thinking is to surround yourself with more positive people.  It’s time to eliminate drama and the people that create drama in your life.  Are the people around you inspiring and supporting you and your dreams and goals?  Are they encouraging and uplifting?  If not, time to let go of or really limit the time you spend with them.  One thing I pay attention to is how I feel after being around someone.  Tired and demotivated or full of energy and ideas…pay attention to this.

Secondly, BE GRATEFUL.  Look at what you have in your life that is positive and focus on that.  Create more of that.  When you are in a stressful or challenging situation ask yourself what is good about this?  Look for the gold in any event in your life.  There is always something positive in every problem you are facing.

Number three?  Take responsibility for everything in your life.  You have created these events, so take control and look to change what is happening around you.  When we take responsibility, we are sitting in a more empowered state rather than one of being the victim. When we play the blame game we are in a victim mentality and it can be challenging to change what is happening.

Lastly, it’s really important to create some alone time.  I know this could seem like a strange thing to have on this list, but it is really important to incorporate alone time in your life.  Recharging our energy is really important to our mental/physical/spiritual well-being.  One of the best ways to recharge your energy is to get some alone time in.  Meditation, yoga, exercise, reading, listening to music or just being in the moment are great ways to recharge and balance your energy.

There are many other ways to help you transition from negative thinking to positive thinking.  Forgiveness, being more kind, or trying not to over-think things are just a few other ways to help get you there.  The bottom line is that you really must be willing to make the change.  Once you decide that you are willing to change these thought patterns, the steps will fall into place.

I found this video to be very powerful.  It’s about two twin brothers, The Rhodes Twins telling their dad that they are gay.  There was some raw emotion throughout the video which tugs at the heart strings.  My heart went out to them that they had such fear in telling their father about being gay.

I guess my wish for them, and for anyone is to be able to live your life being your true self with no fear.  To be able to choose what makes you happy in life and to follow your dreams without fear.  I used to be afraid of telling people that I was psychic or that I could speak with spirit.  Fearful to the point of feeling much the same as these young men did in this video.  Now I live in truth, and I am proud to be who I am and to be able to help people in the way that I do.  I wish this feeling of empowerment for everyone.

This Above All Else; To Thine Own Self Be True – William Shakespeare

Find the courage to be true to yourself.  To speak your truth.  Don’t let the judgement of others sway you or bring you down.  Shine bright and big!  You will feel better, as these guys did after they spoke their truths to their father.

Every moment is a new beginning.  What do I mean by that?  We can choose to change our state of being in every single new moment we have.

Today Paul and I spent the day repairing the front walkway from the damage that had occurred from the house repair we had over the past 4 days.  On Thursday we had our drain tile in our home completely replaced around the house.  This is one of those jobs that is an immense amount of work.  You have to dig out a trench around the house 7 feet down and 3 feet wide to access the drain tile, then replace it and then put the dirt back in.  Our front yard suffered some damage due to the equipment used to dig.

During this process Paul and I stayed fairly positive and optimistic.  We were tired, but in good spirits.  We had a good crew of people helping us.  We were and continue to be very fortunate.  Tired, but thankful and fortunate.  🙂

Of course there were moments of stress over the past 5 days.  The power cables were pulled away from the house, underground live wires were found, the stairs were broken among other things.  It was an incredible process.  Some ups and downs for sure.

We had way more ups than we did downs though.  I attribute this to the fact that we know that every moment is a new beginning.  A new chance to change our state.  When we felt the stress come on, we chose to change the next moment.  To make it positive.  Hey, it’s not always easy…I get it.  But the more one practices it, the easier it gets to change that next moment into something better.

There is no point in dwelling in the state of frustration, or change from frustration to guilt because we caught ourselves not being in a state of gratitude.  It’s just about becoming aware of what you are feeling and then shifting that feeling to a better state.  It’s simple.  Find a way to FEEL GOOD NOW.

We are almost done.  Paul is outside fixing the stairs and I am going to make us something fantastic to eat for dinner!  Then we will celebrate our exhaustion with a job well done!

Do you ever get mad and allow the situation to affect your energy?  Do you sit and stew over something for hours or days?  You know…allow thoughts to circle in your mind, possibly lose sleep over something you said to someone or something they said to you?  I know I have.

There have been times in my life when I’ve been in situations that have really upset me.  Where I’ve argued with someone and things have been left unfinished and I’ve allowed it to affect my energy.  Lost sleep, fatigue and feeling stressed are symptoms I’ve dealt with when conflict arises in my life.

I’ve also learned a few tricks to dissipate this energy and allow for flow to start happening again.  To feel better, to be more focused on what my plans are, have more energy and just satisfied with a situation even if it isn’t resolved.  Each time I practice this, the better I get at it!

One way is to play the Understanding Game.  Ok…let’s say that you are driving and someone completely cuts you off and speeds off.  This can be frustrating, right?  Well, maybe they had an emergency?  Maybe their wife was in labour or their child was sick at the hospital?  Maybe they missed their alarm because the cat unplugged it and were late for their trip they have been saving and planning for over 10 years for?  Who knows.  The point is, when something like this happens and you get upset or frustrated, try thinking that maybe that behavior is not normal for them and there is some circumstance that has made them act all crazy and be rude.  That they are normally as sweet as your Aunt Gertrude.

Another way is to get into the state of gratitude.  This one isn’t always as easy, especially if you purse or wallet was just stolen as an example.  Yes, it sucks.   But think about it.  It’s fixable, so let’s change that state of frustration into a higher vibration…like joy.  Let’s look around at our life and remember what’s good about it.  Maybe you have a silly dog that did something funny that morning.  Go into that moment, and bring that feeling in.  Maybe your goofy kid said something hilarious the other day.  Go into that moment, and bring that feeling in.  Do whatever you can to change your state and bring yourself into alignment with a higher vibrational level.  Then start dealing with the challenge that you are faced with.  You will have a better outcome if you do.

I’m not saying not to deal with the challenges we are faced with.  It’s important to look at why we are creating these events in our lives and resolve the patterns that we are partaking in.  However, if we look at changing how we are feeling when we are in the moment of what is happening, we will get through it with less stress, feel better rather than depleted and the outcome can come to fruition faster and possibly better than what you expected.

Remember, it’s all about choice with how we react.  We can choose to react in a positive way which will have positive effects, or in a negative way, which will perpetuate that energy.  The choice is yours.  Remember that.  You always have a choice.

I came across this video which perfectly sums up what I tell my clients who come in with relationship questions or challenges.  We first must become in alignment with who we are and find fulfillment from within.  Focus on self-love first, shift your energy and raise your vibration.  THEN look for someone who is vibrationally at match with the fulfilled you.  Do not depend upon others to make you happy.  Make yourself happy.

I LOVED the marriage vows Abraham/Esther speaks of in this video.  I will paste them just below and then you can listen to her say them in the video.

“We would like your marriage vows, or your relationship vows, to go like this: ‘Dear one, I want you to know that as much as I love you, there is someone who comes first before you. And that is my alignment with the Source within me. That is my Inner Being. That is who I am devoted to. That is who I’m aligned to. That’s who I’m feeling for. That’s what my commitment is to. And my promise to you is, that I will give you as much as I can – the fullness of me – not a separated me. I’m going to do my best to satisfy my alignment, and therefore give you the gift of living with someone who is aligned. And what that will be for you, what that will mean for you, how that will play out for you is: I won’t be needing or demanding from you behavior in order to keep myself happy. My happiness will be dependent upon my focus.”

Enjoy!!