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Last night we had a storm and heavy rain blow through our area.  Rain is a common occurrence for us. The challenge with the rain this time was that the ground was partially frozen and was unable to absorb all the water.  Because of this, we ended up with quite a bit of water coming into our home (in the basement) in the late evening.

We had been working on solving a minor leak in this area for a few months now, but it wasn’t anything major.  Last night it seemed that the dam broke and we had water pouring in one area of our basement.  My husband was working down there for about an hour and the atmosphere was quite tense.  I went down to try and move some of our things around to make space for easier access.  I was moving a few things to the other side of the basement when I noticed a pool of water coming in from that area too!  Talk about adding to a stressful situation, right?  So I called Paul over and showed him, and he immediately went to work on that problem.  I took over for him in the other area where he was before.

As I’m wringing out the towels and soaking up the water on the floor I could feel myself becoming anxious and stressed.  Anyone would be, right?  In that moment of awareness of what I was feeling in my body, I had a decision to make.  I could decide to allow the stress and anxiety to grow or I could trust that everything was going to be fine and just relax.  I could just focus on the task at hand, which was soaking up the water and wringing out the towels into a bucket.

I chose to relax.  I grounded my energy and just focused on the task at hand.  I worked on calming my husband down, told him things were going to be fine.  What’s funny about this, is that Paul is usually very calm and balanced.  Last night he decided to allow the situation to get to him a little. I could have chosen to participate with him and get angry and frustrated, rather I decided to stay calm and diffuse the situation.

When things were a little more under control, we talked and made a plan of who we could call for help in the morning.  This is all we could do at this point in time.  We were handling the water coming in at that point.  There wasn’t anything left to do.  We could choose to get angry, frustrated or sit in fear at the unknown.  But why?  I learned a long time ago that everything is fixable…so it was just a matter of time.

We always have a choice on how to react to the situations presented to us.  All of them.  Some are easier than others.  It’s about remembering what energy you want to create within and around you.

How will you decide to contribute to situations presented to you?

Being still within.  Bringing yourself to the moment of now.  Mindfullness.

I practice these on a daily basis.  It can be a challenge some days.  I found that over the Holiday Season it was easy to forget to do these things.  I would find myself getting wrapped up in “have to do this or that” process of the holidays.  The rushing around, making lists, wrapping presents, cleaning, cooking, and entertaining.

There were many times I would feel the anxiety from the perception of not having enough time.  Am I going to get everything done? What am I forgetting?  Will it be enough?  These are some of the questions I asked myself.  These are some of the questions that I allowed in to escape from the stillness I create within.

I think the month of December is one of the hardest months to practice these life skills.  It is very easy to get caught up in the doing and getting to the next thing on our lists.  I would find myself doing one thing and thinking of what was next rather than focus on and enjoy the moment of what I was in.  Can anyone relate to this?

Don’t get me wrong, I did have many moments of stillness, being in the now and mindfullness throughout the season and I can tell you that I get better and better at it every year.

One of my favorite things to do this time of year is to watch the snow as it falls.  I either watch through the window or go outside and just allow myself to focus on the beauty of the snow falling.  I listen to what I hear, and allow myself to be wrapped up in the silence of the snowfall.  I feel the coolness and crispness of the air.  I admire the beauty of these little magical white flakes as they fall from the sky and hit the ground.  I allow myself to be completely in the moment of it, to create stillness within and just be.

When I found myself in a moment of chaos, anxiety or feeling rushed, I would first become aware that I was in this state.  I then would go to that moment of being in the snowfall.  This would allow me to first change my state of being.  I would become aligned with joy, with something that makes me happy.  Once I was in this state, it was easy to then focus on the moment I was in and create stillness within and around me.  I was able to enjoy what I was doing in that moment…even if it was chores or driving in holiday traffic.

I have many other “go to moments” that I can use if need be.  It’s great to have many to choose from.

When people ask me how to create more peace and balance in their lives, simplify or become happier, this is what I do.  I create stillness within, live in the moment and practice mindfullness.  When I am not aligned with these things and have trouble getting into alignment, I would use a “go to moment” to get there.  The more I practice doing this, the easier it is to get to the moment of now, in a balanced state.

Take some time and think of a few moments that bring you back to joy and use those when you find yourself feeling anxious, rushed or unbalanced.  Feel free to share your “go to moments” below!

Every thought I think is creating my future.  Every thought you think is creating your future.

Sometimes it can be challenging to become aware of the thoughts we are thinking.  Some of us are busy, distracted and disconnected.  Some of us are caught up in and addicted to drama that runs our everyday lives.  Some of us live in constant loops that can be challenging to disengage from.

So where do we go from here?

We begin by becoming more present in the moment of NOW.  We get clear on what we want for our future.  We disengage from the drama, the distractions and the stress.  We take a look at what we are creating in the moment of now.  What is it that we see?  What are we thinking?  What has been created up until this point?

How are we reacting to the situations in our life?

For me, I want to and have been creating more joy and abundance in my life.  One of the things I focus on all the time is how I am feeling in the moment that I am in.  I have become very aware of when I feel good and when I don’t.  When I don’t feel good, I stop and become aware of what is transpiring around me and work towards getting back into feeling good.

A great example of what I am working on right now is how I react when the dogs are barking.  We have 2 amazing dogs, Zoe and Eddie (we call him Bubba).  They are so damn cute and hilarious!  The one challenge I am working on with them right now is that they bark insanely at anyone that walks by.  Let me tell you…people walk by all the time.  Up until recently, I would get major anxiety and get angry when they would bark.  It would irritate the hell out of me!  Instant reaction on my part of not feeling good.

So, first, I thought about the situation and became clear on what I want to see from this.  I came to the understanding that people are going to walk by…and those cute-ass dogs of mine are going to bark.  That it was up to me to change how I reacted to them barking.  Yes, I could bring them inside every time they bark…but that would get annoying really fast!  And I would still have the emotional reaction to deal with!

What I started doing was shift the energy I felt when they would bark.  They start barking, I have an emotional reaction, and then I counter that emotional reaction by thinking about something that makes me happy, joyous and feeling good.  This was the new pattern I created.  I would think about what I love about the dogs.  When Paul and I get home from being out (even for 30 minutes) Zoe would be greeting us at the door with her tail wagging and her ears all crinkled up.  We started calling her Yoda ears..because they looked like Yoda ears.  So CUTE!!!  Sometimes when Eddie is outside he rolls around in the grass with his legs flailing all over the place…so CUTE!!  There are so many moments, it makes it easy to turn this energy around.

The more I practice this, the less I react to the dogs barking.  AND GUESS WHAT??  The more I practice this, the less the dogs are barking!  How cool is that?

We can do this in all areas of our lives!  We just have to get clear on what we want to create and then start making changes with how we think and feel so that we can create the future that we want.

Start small.  Make it easy to win!  Pick something in your life that you would like to see change for the better.  Choose to think thoughts that support that new future.  Choose to think thoughts of balance, harmony, peace, joy, love, and start to express it in your life.

Where can you create more thoughts of balance, harmony, peace, joy and love in your life?

One of life’s challenges is to be aware of our thoughts and emotions and see how they contribute to what we are creating in this world.

If we are thinking negatively and feeling bad, then this energy/vibration is what we are putting out to the universe.  In turn, the universe will use this vibrational energy to help create our reality.  The universe is always matching our reality to our vibration.  Like attracts like, we must remember this.  What we put out to the universe, we get back.  So, if you are constantly living in a stressful, negative state and things don’t go your way…then look at what you are thinking and feeling to create this reality of yours.

You can change your reality at any time.  Within moments, shifting can take place and you can start creating a reality that works for you.  It starts with something so simple.

Feel Good Now.

Stop what you are doing and check in with your feelings.  Are you mad, sad, frustrated, irritated, stressed, dissapointed, neutral, depressed, etc…etc.  Change it!

How can we change it when we are in a moment of complete frustration?  We must choose to shift our energy to something better than the state we are in.  What makes you laugh? What makes you happy?  Find things that make you feel better than the state you are in now and keep going until you have shifted your energy into a higher vibrational state!  Here is a picture of my cats.  This is one of the pictures I look at when I want to Feel Good Now.

I love this picture!  I have hundreds of pictures of my cats and dogs that I can look at when I am wanting to shift my energy.  I have certain music that I put on when I want to raise my vibrational level.  I can sit outside and look at the nature that surrounds my house.  I can dance.  I can sing.  There are so many things to choose from.  Get creative!

In order to bring what we want into our lives, we must be at a vibrational match or higher with those things.  If we want peace, love, and joy in our lives and in our relationships, then we must create peace, love and joy within ourselves!

The first step to this is to Feel Good Now.

I posted this quote from Abraham Hicks on my Facebook Page and I will post it here for you to read as well.

Whenever you are feeling less than good, if you will stop and say, Nothing is more important than that I feel good—I want to find a reason now to feel good, you will find an improved thought.

Anytime you feel negative emotion, you are in the mode of resisting something that you want, and that resistance takes its toll on you. It takes its toll on your physical body, and it takes its toll on the amount of wonderful things that you are allowing to come into your experience. -Abraham

When I read that quote this morning, it came to me at the perfect time.  I wasn’t in a vibration of feeling good this morning.  I woke up tired and a little frustrated.  I gave the universe a “thumbs up” and a thank you for the wink once I saw that post!  I want to make sure that I am in alignment with feeling good now as often as I can be!  I want to be open to all the possibilities that the universe has to offer me!  I can do the simple task of checking in with myself and make sure that I Feel Good Now!

How about you?

Over the past year I’ve become more aware of how I want to handle the relationships within my life and one of the most important aspects of a healthy balanced relationship is healthy balanced communication.  What is healthy balanced communication?  From my opinion, it is a person communicating their needs constructively from a whole brained balanced state.

There are many different ways to communicate to your loved ones, and unfortunately many of us only communicate our needs when we are angry or hurt.  We usually do this in the heat of the moment, which from my point of view isn’t the best time to communicate.  We hold things in and bottle them up rather than dealing with what IS at the time it happened, which leads to emotional explosions.  We get angry, or sad, depressed and many of us don’t ask the simple question of why?  Why are we feeling that emotion?  What was the trigger?

One of the first things we can learn to do is to become more aware of why we feel the way we do.  What is making us upset, angry or sad?  Where does that come from?  Is that an old trigger from the past that we haven’t dealt with?  Is it something that is reoccurring that we need to look at?  How can I look at the emotional event in a whole brained way?  What can I learn from it so that in the future I know how to communicate what I need, when I need it, and in a constructive way?

Yes, it can take work and time at first to become more aware, but it is work that pays off in the end.

Once we have started becoming more aware, it allows us to become more clear on what we want out of our relationships.  We can then look at what we have and what we would like to improve.  The best way to improve on what we have, is to communicate to our loved ones what our needs are.  I’m not talking about telling or demanding to you partner what you want, nor trying to communicate how it needs to be in the heat of an argument.  Really, the best scenario would be for the two of you to sit separately and become clear on what you want out of the relationship, then come together, listen to what each of you have to say, and then communicate on how you can both work together towards building a positive, supportive relationship.  This is the basis of any relationship, whether it be with a partner, family member, or friend.

It isn’t about sitting there and talking about what you aren’t getting, re-hashing an argument from 12 years ago, or telling the other person what they need to do.  Yes, it is important to recognize the past, learn from it, and move forward.  Many of us get stuck in the past though.  We can’t change the past.  We can only change the present moment.  Work on the present moment so that you can change the future.

What do I mean by constructive communication or whole brained communication?  Well, it is communicating with someone else on a balanced level.  I don’t want to say without emotion, but it is in a state of mind that isn’t emotionally triggered.  So, we aren’t angry or hurtful or sad or crying or even from a state of submission where we we feel below the person we communicate with.  It’s a balanced state of equality, and it comes from a place of love.  I feel that communicating with love is paramount.

I’m not talking about telling them you love them and by showing them affection while you communicate.  It comes from place of being, and for many people it requires work to get to that state.  However, the more we practice being in that place of love and living in that state, the easier it is to get there.  Practice self love, compassion and non-judgement.  These are the emotions that get you to that state, from my opinion.  From that state of being, you can begin to manifest the relationships you want and the communication you use to get there.

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This month is all about love and Valentine’s Day.  We focus on showing love for spouses, family and friends, but what about love for ourselves?  Maybe we can think about showing ourselves a little more love and kindness!

Many of us struggle with self-love and really focusing on ourselves and what we need.  How often do you get time to sit down and think about how great of a person you are, and what you have to offer the world?  Instead we go about our day beating ourselves up, criticizing what we do and second guessing every move we make.  It’s time to be kind!

Are you searching for love outside of yourself?  How many times have you thought or said, ” I wish my husband (or significant other) would show me more love…would be more romantic…would compliment me more…?”.  Yes it’s nice to receive love and compliments, but ask yourself if this is where your sense of security and self-worth is stemming from?  Why is it that you hope and wait to hear compliments from others, but not give them to yourselves?

But how do we love ourselves?  How do we change this?  We first become aware of what our thoughts are.  What we are thinking about ourselves is very important.  If we are constantly beating up on ourselves, stop and ask why.  Where is this thought coming from?  What is the belief around it?  Has someone said this to you in the past, and you have adopted this belief as your own?

Start looking at where in your life you are feeling unsatisfied and start making changes.  Do you work at a job that you hate?  Do you have relationships that don’t bring value to your life?  What are your passions?  What do you love to do?  Why aren’t you doing the things you love to do?  What is stopping you?

Yes, there are many questions to ask ourselves and sure, some of them are tough to find the answers for.

How long can you keep avoiding looking for the answers and keep living a life that you are unhappy with?  How much time will pass by before you realize that receiving love from others REALLY starts with you loving yourself unconditionally?

What are you waiting for?

To book a session to help you on your path…contact Drea.

Happy New Year!

2012 is all about new beginnings, new chapters and personal transformations.  If you have been thinking of change and growth in your life, this is the perfect year to do it!  It’s time for you to find purpose and connect to who you are and why you are here.  For some of you, the road might not be apparent or easy to find.  Remember that it isn’t about how to get there or where the road is, but more about just putting one foot in front of the other and just starting to walk.  The direction you take will most likely surprise you!

I’ve been thinking over the past couple of days about the energy that we are moving into this year and it is very exciting!  There will be a lot of movement happening all over the world.  I started to wonder about what I could do to help people get onto their path a bit easier.  To give you a bit of a jump-start if you are looking for change and purpose.  I came up with something that I’ve started implementing with some family and friends and I thought I would share the idea with you.

To New Beginnings!

What I would like to offer to anyone that is interested in changing their lives, finding more purpose, happiness, love and gratitude, is a series based healing/intuitive package. These sessions with be completely tailored to you as an individual and will be as unique to you as you are to the world!  They are really all about helping you find what you need to get you to move forward in the New Year.

You will start by committing to 8 sessions, one per week, at 30 minutes in length. I want to help people move forward and take that first step, so I have really kept the cost to you very affordable.  Per session, the cost will be $20 and your total commitment over the 8 weeks is $160.

It’s a great time to start to make changes in your life; an exciting time for transformation and growth.

I can help you get there.

Best wishes for a prosperous 2012! I wish you all love, happiness and health in this New Year!

Drea

A lot of us want to create more positive energy in our lives and be surrounded by more positive people. So why is it that negatives things still happen, even with those things happening over and over? Why is it that the people around you seem to be negative and bring you down? Why can’t you create that positive lifestyle you want and deserve?

There are many different reasons why you could still be reaching for that positivity that’s missing. One of the biggest reasons is usually based on your belief system. A lot of people feel that they don’t deserve to be happy or have fulfilling relationships. This is usually based on a belief of not feeling good enough and having low self esteem. This is just one example of many beliefs that can keep you from positivity. Looking at your belief system is definitely one of the first places to start changes.

Something else to consider, and this is usually related to the relationships in your life, is that you are addicted to the drama surrounding people that are negative. This happens more often than people realize. It’s very easy to become distracted by other people’s problems and be pulled into the negativity that is associated with drama. Learn to let go of the drama. Start having conversations with people about the good things that happen rather than the bad. Or start letting go of the people that bring negativity into your life.

Also look at how you look at situations that crop up in your life. Why do you see the situation as being negative? Why not look at the positive aspects of what has happened to you? Figure out why it was good for you to get into that car accident, or why you were fired from your job. Stop looking at the negative reasons surrounding those situations. There is good in every single situation that you create within your life. And yes, YOU DO create everything that happens to you.

Start looking inward rather than outward. Create more positive situations. Become more aware of your thoughts and replace the negative ones with positive ones. Start living your life with passion and choosing things and people that bring you closer to what you want. If you want to change your belief system, (which affects your thoughts greatly) then start looking for ways to do that. One amazing way to do that is through a process called Psych-K.  It’s a process that allows for re-programming limiting beliefs that is very effective.

It’s time to start making changes in your life to bring you closer to who you truly are and what you deserve.

To book a one-on-one Intuitive Guidance Session with Drea, click here.

Do you have a relationship in your life that drags you down?  You feel drained or negative after being around or speaking to this person.  Or this person speaks of all the bad in their life, but doesn’t take the action required to make their life better.  You know who I’m speaking of.  Whether it be with a significant other, friend or family member, many of us have these relationships with people that we seem to keep a hold of.  But why?

Obligation, guilt, fear of change, not feeling worthy of better relationships, and other reasons.  Let’s talk about a few of these reasons.

Guilt.  We feel guilty either for standing up for ourselves and telling whomever, enough is enough.  We feel guilty because we don’t want to hurt their feelings, not taking into consideration our personal well being and having constant negativity thrown at us.  It’s funny how we put them first, over us, isn’t it?  But why do we do that?

Not feeling worthy.  We don’t feel that we deserve better.  We are used to putting others first and ourselves second…third…last even.  Self-love and putting ourselves first is what we can practice more.  By allowing yourself to be first, and choosing not to have that type of energy around you, you are practicing self-love and feeling worthy of having a better life filled with more fulfilling relationships.

Obligation is probably one of the biggest reasons why we hold onto these relationships with people that don’t serve our higher good.  We feel obligation towards that person, whether it be for a societal reason, or because they are family, or a long time friend.  So what?  It’s time to let go of that obligation!  Obligation is just another form of worrying about what other people think about you!  It doesn’t matter what they think.  What’s important is what YOU think about YOU.  What if it’s your closest family member, you ask?  Like a sibling or parent or child?  What if it is?  Doesn’t matter.  You need to ask your self what you want out of life.  Does this relationship that you are holding onto, yeah, the one filled with constant negativity, abuse, anger, guilt, or frustration, serve you?  Do you want to be caught up in that drama?

No?

Then stop fearing change.

I’ll tell you one thing.  When you let go of people in your life that no longer serve your higher good, you make room for people in your life that DO serve your higher good.  Now, doesn’t that sound like more fun?  It does to me!  Having people in your life that support your passions, that are truly happy for you in everything you do in life.  A relationship based on freedom rather than one based on conditions.  Doesn’t that feel lighter to you?

I’m not saying that everything is going to be rosey posey and you will never have conflict within your relationships ever again.  The difference is that you will be able to resolve conflict in a respectable manner with open communication, rather than communication within a relationship based on fear, guilt and obligation.  There is a difference.

So, tell me, how are you going to embrace change and move towards a future with happier, more fulfilling relationships?

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