Posts Tagged ‘fear of change’

Do you have a relationship in your life that drags you down?  You feel drained or negative after being around or speaking to this person.  Or this person speaks of all the bad in their life, but doesn’t take the action required to make their life better.  You know who I’m speaking of.  Whether it be with a significant other, friend or family member, many of us have these relationships with people that we seem to keep a hold of.  But why?

Obligation, guilt, fear of change, not feeling worthy of better relationships, and other reasons.  Let’s talk about a few of these reasons.

Guilt.  We feel guilty either for standing up for ourselves and telling whomever, enough is enough.  We feel guilty because we don’t want to hurt their feelings, not taking into consideration our personal well being and having constant negativity thrown at us.  It’s funny how we put them first, over us, isn’t it?  But why do we do that?

Not feeling worthy.  We don’t feel that we deserve better.  We are used to putting others first and ourselves second…third…last even.  Self-love and putting ourselves first is what we can practice more.  By allowing yourself to be first, and choosing not to have that type of energy around you, you are practicing self-love and feeling worthy of having a better life filled with more fulfilling relationships.

Obligation is probably one of the biggest reasons why we hold onto these relationships with people that don’t serve our higher good.  We feel obligation towards that person, whether it be for a societal reason, or because they are family, or a long time friend.  So what?  It’s time to let go of that obligation!  Obligation is just another form of worrying about what other people think about you!  It doesn’t matter what they think.  What’s important is what YOU think about YOU.  What if it’s your closest family member, you ask?  Like a sibling or parent or child?  What if it is?  Doesn’t matter.  You need to ask your self what you want out of life.  Does this relationship that you are holding onto, yeah, the one filled with constant negativity, abuse, anger, guilt, or frustration, serve you?  Do you want to be caught up in that drama?

No?

Then stop fearing change.

I’ll tell you one thing.  When you let go of people in your life that no longer serve your higher good, you make room for people in your life that DO serve your higher good.  Now, doesn’t that sound like more fun?  It does to me!  Having people in your life that support your passions, that are truly happy for you in everything you do in life.  A relationship based on freedom rather than one based on conditions.  Doesn’t that feel lighter to you?

I’m not saying that everything is going to be rosey posey and you will never have conflict within your relationships ever again.  The difference is that you will be able to resolve conflict in a respectable manner with open communication, rather than communication within a relationship based on fear, guilt and obligation.  There is a difference.

So, tell me, how are you going to embrace change and move towards a future with happier, more fulfilling relationships?

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