Posts Tagged ‘soul mate’

Many people have asked me about soul mates.  The how’s and when’s and why’s of being or wanting a soul mate.  I thought I would share with you a few myths surrounding soul mates.

Myth #1 – We only have one Soul Mate

This is a myth.  I prefer to call it a soul connection rather than a soul mate.  We have many soul connections over our life time.  You may meet someone and refer to them as a kindred spirit.  Chances are when you meet this other soul, there is a strong sense of familiarity or comfort when seeing them.  Hey, you might even strongly despise them right off the bat for no reason at all.  Chances are, this soul has wronged you in a past life.  A soul connection doesn’t always mean that you will have a sexual relationship with them.  They could be life long friends, co-workers, or earth angels even!

I have had many soul connections so far.  Some are great, some not so great.   This leads us to our next myth…

Myth #2 – When I meet a Soul Mate I will live happily ever after

Wrongo Bongo!

Well..I guess it depends on your perception for part of this one.  😉

Soul connections, especially the important ones, are here to help us learn!  They are here to assist us with our life lessons and sometimes this will drive us crazy!  From my perception, this is awesome!  Other people might not like this so much.

Some soul connections are very strong and intense and are meant to last a life time, but some are very short lived.  We may only get a few years with a soul connection, whether it be a friend or a lover.

Paul is a soul connection for me.  When I first met him, it was an instant connection.  We talked everyday after that.  He has been my biggest support and my biggest challenge!  I have learned many things from him.  Some days he just drives me crazy.  He can be a real dork sometimes!  Haha!  😀

I’ve had other soul connections like this with friends.  Learned many things from them.  Some of them are still in my life, some are not.  This is ok.  Just because we meet a soul connection, it doesn’t always mean we are going to live happily ever after with them.

Myth 3# –   My Soul Mate will be just like me

Nope!

They are a completely different person and a different soul.  They too have lessons here to learn.  They will have their own personality.  You may have a few qualities or interests that are similar, but really they are a different person.

Embrace your differences and enjoy them.  Chances are that your differences will compliment the relationship and enhance it.

Myth #4 – My Soul Mate should already be perfect

LOL.  Ya right!

Are you perfect?  Probably not!  What is perfection anyways?  A fantasy…that’s what!

Should??  Says who?  We will attract a soul connection that is perfect for us in the moment we are in.  They will be human.  They will have challenges, just like us!

If you believe this myth, it really leaves no room for growth, evolving or discovering.  Remember, if you spot it…you got it!

The best of relationships take commitment, time, honesty, compassion and awareness.

By becoming aware of these myths, you can let go of the blocks that have been holding you back from allowing more soul connections in.

What is your favorite soul connection story?  Let us know below!

I came across this video which perfectly sums up what I tell my clients who come in with relationship questions or challenges.  We first must become in alignment with who we are and find fulfillment from within.  Focus on self-love first, shift your energy and raise your vibration.  THEN look for someone who is vibrationally at match with the fulfilled you.  Do not depend upon others to make you happy.  Make yourself happy.

I LOVED the marriage vows Abraham/Esther speaks of in this video.  I will paste them just below and then you can listen to her say them in the video.

“We would like your marriage vows, or your relationship vows, to go like this: ‘Dear one, I want you to know that as much as I love you, there is someone who comes first before you. And that is my alignment with the Source within me. That is my Inner Being. That is who I am devoted to. That is who I’m aligned to. That’s who I’m feeling for. That’s what my commitment is to. And my promise to you is, that I will give you as much as I can – the fullness of me – not a separated me. I’m going to do my best to satisfy my alignment, and therefore give you the gift of living with someone who is aligned. And what that will be for you, what that will mean for you, how that will play out for you is: I won’t be needing or demanding from you behavior in order to keep myself happy. My happiness will be dependent upon my focus.”

Enjoy!!